Various MENtalities

Alright so I'm 23, been in three "long-term" relationships, actually four if you count my puppy love boyfriend back in the day lol. But that basically covers my entire teenage years, all throughout college, and, obviously, the beginning of my twenties. And so now I find myself here thinking, or knowing rather, that I didn't know nothing about nothing until right now...and I probably still have alot to learn from here. I thought I knew what I was doing, but really it has all just been one big growing process. And now I'm basically grown, unfortunately.
So anyways, I've been thinking lately about all the different mentalities that we as young women have about modern-day "relationships". And here are the different "MENtalities" that I've come up with, I'm sure there are more:

1) The "BABY BOY Mentality"
Okay so we've all seen the movie. This one guy that I was talking to at a certain point told me one day that he never knew why girls liked that movie so much because Jodi was cheating on Yvette, still living at home with his mom at that age, etc. Then he said he thinks girls like it because we equate love with basically being somebody's number one. Number one is the girl that a guy lies to because he "loves" her so much and doesn't want to hurt her...but he tells all of his other girls the truth about who he "loves". LOL, THAT'S ALL BULL. And not to mention childish and ignorant in my opinion, but some people agree. But let's move on to the next MENtality.

2) The "Think Like A Man" Mentality
When I was thinking of this one I actually had the Steve Harvey book somewhat in mind, just a little bit. With this mentality a woman is supposed to be "smart" about things when dating a guy and taking her time and not getting too attached too soon, playing the field, gaining respect, etc. At least that's what it seems that the book is saying, I haven't really read it. But also in this mentality some women say that they can actually think and operate like a man: taking situations for what they are, not really caring about the guy's feelings, or getting what they want from a man with no strings attached (be it sex, money, just to chill, and so on), never really getting attached, etc. . .

3) The Desperate Mentality
I actually have a soft spot for women with this mentality in my heart because I think it's really sad what they go through. With this mentality women make themselves WAY too available, barely attaining any respect at all. They have to have a man, or men, or just that male attention so badly that they come off as loose, wild, or easy. We all know some women like this. It's really not a good look, and we'll leave it at that.

4) The "He Better Be 100% Because I Am" Mentality
Okay, I have one thing to say, GUILTY. Yep, this one was all me. With this mentality, women give alot, almost like a marriage. It's like you begin to live your life for yourself and this other person, kind of forgetting about the things that you should be doing for yourself as a young woman. Yeah it's good times (and sometimes it's not), but your time is taken up and consumed with this guy (even if he's a good guy) to the point where yall become of equal importance. It's dangerous because if that person hurts you or dissapoints you or makes you upset, your whole world collapses. The relationship then has too much control over you. Whether it's a good relationship or not. If you give 110% you ALWAYS run the risk of dissapoinment..because what happens if you find out that this person is only giving you 90%...or 50%. . .then what? and that's how it usually goes. Most guys are not like girls, and they're especially not like good girls.

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So after all of these mentalities are understood, there's only one thing left to understand: they're ALL wrong lol. Or at least there's SOMETHING wrong with all of them. Only because they are all worldly. The gift and the curse of love and relationships is that they both come from God. It's a gift because they are both beautiful things. It could be considered somewhat of a curse as well these days because it gets very hard to live up to God's expectations of love and relationships in this day and age because dang there EVERYTHING around us is sinful, so its tough.

Nevertheless, God says that love is none of these mentalities... He says that love is patient, kind, not jealous or boastful, or rude or proud. It doesn't demand its own way, it is not irritable, it keeps no record of wrong, it's never glad about injustice, but rejoices when the truth is let out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, always hopeful and endures every circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
The Bible also tells us to save ourselves until marriage and once married to never divorce. . .as a matter of fact the church doesn't even recognize what we call "relationships", they only recognize marriage.
It's crazy hard to determine how to twist and flip what love and relationships are supposed to be like to match up to what they actaully are like in this day and age. What I've decided to do is live day by day, knowing what I want in a man and knowing how I want to be loved, praying about it, living it up before somebody ties me down, looking cute, and trying to keep a close relationship with God so that He will bless me with a situation that is even remotely close to what he intended love and relationships to be. I trust Him, I know He go me ;)

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